DEFINITION OF INFIDELITY
Marital Infidelity , Cheating
Spouses, Cheaters, Cheating Husbands, Cheating Wives, Marriage Infidelity
, Marriage Infidelity, Adultery or whatever you may call it, is literally a breach of faith. Fidelity, derived
from the
Latin
word for faithfulness, is the principle of not deceiving one
capable of being deceived. Marital Infidelity or adultery is a breach of good faith that applies in a number of other contexts (for
example
religious). In the context of this article about close
relationships, infidelity is referred to as
cheating, which is 'any violation of the mutually
agreed-upon rules or boundaries of a relationship'. Infidelity does not
require sexual behavior to qualify as infidelity. The
definition of what constitutes an act of infidelity varies
between and within cultures. People in a close relationship may
have very different ideas and perceptions of infidelity. A
husband cheated by his wife is referred to as a
Cuckold but no equivalent word exists for a woman cheated by
her husband. The term describes a married man whose wife has sex
with other men and commit adultery.
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INVESTIGATORS Fidelity also refers to the accuracy and integrity of
self-representation, honesty or candor in an
intimate,
committed relationship.
Integrity may be defined as 'the inner sense of wholeness
deriving from honesty and consistent uprightness of
character.' Marital Infidelity is a breach of that integrity through
the use of
deception by one party to a committed and not necessarily
monogamous relationship. This breach is experienced as a
betrayal of an explicit or implicit agreement between the
partners to not keep secret those matters now the subject of
deception. 'Deception is the covert manipulation of perception
to alter thoughts, feeling, or beliefs.'
Although the definition of "adultery" differs in nearly every
legal system, the common theme is sexual relations outside of
marriage, in one form or another.
For example,
New York defines an adulterer as a person who "engages in
sexual intercourse with another person at a time when he has a
living spouse, or the other person has a living spouse."
While in
North Carolina adultery is when any a man and woman who
"lewdly and lasciviously associate, bed and cohabit together." Minnesota defines adultery as: "when a married woman has
sexual intercourse with a man other than her husband, whether
married or not, both are guilty of adultery".
Adultery was known in earlier times by the legalistic term
"criminal conversation" (another term,
alienation of affection, is used when one spouse deserts the
other for a third person).
A marriage in which both spouses agree that it is acceptable
for the husband or wife to have sexual relationships with other
people other than their spouse is a form of
nonmonogamy. The resulting sexual relationships the husband
or wife has with other people, although could be considered to
be cheating, infidelity, adultery in some legal jurisdictions, are not treated as such
by the spouses.
Some cultures have a distinguished interpretation of the term
infidelity or cheating spouse: in some legal systems, it might be tolerated as
long as it does not fit the jurisdiction's legal definition of
adultery. On the other hand, infidelity is not only a sexual
term, but is the
Latin
word "unfaithful" (fides: faith). (Having no
faith
can also mean the religious belief.
The word 'affair', as used here, describes a form of
nonmonogamy. When a relationship of two or more people
breaches a monogamous agreement with a spouse, then the term
infidelity or marital infidelity may be more apt. A relationship involving
infidelity tends to exclude one or both spouses of those
partner's involved in the affair. The phrase 'emotional affair'
may be used to describe a
chaste infidelity. It is an affair that remains at the
'emotional' level as long as it is without objective, overt
sexual
consummation. Theoretically an emotional affair could be
consummated alone, as a sexual fantasy. This may sometimes occur
while engaging in sexual relations with the spouse who is being
betrayed.
Disclaimers such as 'we didn't have sex, so it
doesn't matter' may be used to neutralize the sense of extra
marital wrong doing by one or both partner's of an emotional
affair. They can be portrayed in fictional writing or drama as
life changing experiences (good or bad), and they are the often
the subject of racy romance stories that teeter on the edge.
However, they can also be catastrophic for all concerned when it
is a relationship that is clandestine, unsanctioned and exposed
as more than just
friendship.
Sometimes an emotional affair can be more damaging to a
committed relationship than if it were a 'one night stand' or
'just about the sex'. The
interpersonal attraction may be a result of
propinquity (physical or psychological
proximity),
physical attraction or a perceived lack of
interpersonal chemistry in the
primary relationship.
What infidelity means depends on who you ask and the statistics are of
course, misleading. Sexual feelings in an emotional affair are necessarily
denied in order to maintain the illusion that it is just special friendship.
Affair surveys are unlikely to explore what is denied. Many people in affair
surveys are not honest with themselves nor with the interviewer.
What is emotional
cheating?
This type of affair is often characterized by:
- Inappropriate
emotional intimacy. The partner being unfaithful may
spend inappropriate or excessive time with someone of the
opposite or same gender (time not shared with the faithful
partner). He or she may confide more in their new “friend”
than in their partner and may share more intimate emotional
feelings and secrets with their new partner than with their
existing spouse. Any time that an individual invests more
emotionally into a relationship with someone besides their
partner the existing partnership may suffer.
-
Deception and secrecy. Those involved may not tell
their partners about the amount of time they spend with each
other. An individual involved in this type of affair may,
for example, tell his or her spouse that they are doing
other activities when they are really meeting with someone
else. Or the unfaithful spouse may exclude any mention of
the other person while discussing the day’s activities to
conceal the rendezvous. Even if no physical intimacy occurs,
the deception does shows clearly that those involved believe
they are doing something wrong that undermines the existing
relationship. In other words, if there was really no harm in
meeting with a friend, both parties would feel comfortable
telling their partners the truth about where they are
meeting and what they are discussing.
- An emotional
triangle. One that may only be known to the
unfaithful, who then struggles to keep the other two from
knowing of the impact of one upon the other. Denial will
likely characterise the unfaithful person's response to an
invitation by their spouse to reflect on the competing demands of the other person.
- Sexual and
emotional chemistry. Emotional affairs may not
always lead to physical intimacy, but some do. The time
between the first meeting and a first kiss can often be very
lengthy, but the time between the first kiss and sexual
intercourse may be very short. In most of these affairs,
however, an unspoken attraction exists. A partner may spend
extra time getting ready before seeing this "friend" or may
buy new clothing or change their appearance in order to seem
attractive to them. They may obsess anticipating phone
calls, emails or text messages.
- Denial. Denial of the presence of
sexual behavior,
sexuality or even of an atom of
limerence. "Limerence is an involuntary cognitive and
emotional state in which a person feels an intense romantic
desire for another person. It is characterized by intrusive
thinking and pronounced sensitivity to external events that
reflect the disposition of the limerent object towards the
individual."
- Betrayal. There is an implicit betrayal of shared beliefs about the sanctity of being a
soulmate, of being in love and of being
faithful to those core values of intimacy perceived by
the spouse not involved in the affair.
Marital infidelity investigations statistics
states that the workplace
has become the best place for married people who engage in infidelity
to meet the other person.An office romance, work romance, or corporate
affair is a romance that occurs between two people who work
together in the same office, work location, or business. The
relationship between affair partners at work can be as wide as
intern and president; company CEO and member of the board;
supervisor and supervisee; company representative and client;
boss and secretary, and so on. And it can be between peers or
colleagues at the same level in the organization.
Office
romances are generally believed to be unhelpful to the welfare
and effectiveness of the business and to the network of
relationships that comprise it. Thus they are discouraged and
even prohibited by company policy. Both men and women can be
guilty of sleeping their way to the top. The suspicion that an
advantage is gained by 'sleeping with the boss' in a competitive
environment ensures that these transactions occur by stealth. To
have a powerful influence on the opportunities placed in one's
path, one does not have to engage in sexual intercourse. A
special relationship could be enough to gain leverage where
business opportunities are in short supply. This fuzzy boundary
can be nuanced by practiced players in order to provide
deniability when required. The usual cover-ups include: 'we're
just friends' or 'we were just working late at the office' or
'it was just a conference thing, it meant nothing'.
Neither does one have to be directly involved in the affair
for the knowledge of it to be useful currency — discretion in
exchange for advantage.
Office infidelity affairs may involve a power differential in both
heterosexual and same sex liaisons. If the affair ends badly it
is almost always the least powerful who gives up their job and
the more powerful who stays or gets promoted out of the area as
a solution. Increasingly employers will insert office romance
disclosure clauses in employment contracts. Where the affair or
its non-disclosure is in breach of that contract, the
clandestine edge is heightened. Perversely this can increase
both the excitement of the affair and the later damage to
collegiate relationships and the company's good name. A witch
hunt can ensue.
Work Affairs or cheating begin one conversation at a time, often without
either party admitting to themselves that they intend a deeper
connection. 'It just happened' may be the subsequent claim. In
fact, the time between a so-called innocent beginning and the
first kiss is usually considerable, but the time between that
kiss and sexual intercourse is usually short. People involved in
this way can appear to themselves to have landed in trouble very
quickly, when in fact there was a slow fuse burning long before
ignition. (Shirley Glass 'Not Just Friends')
This process of engaging and disengaging an office affair
or infidelity or cheating,
requires careful and non-punitive examination at every level of
the organization in order to understand affair dynamics at work.
That will assist in preventing breaches of employment contracts
where that is possible. The challenges of that process suggest
the value of
family friendly employment conditions, as quite often it is
the betrayed spouse who literally shoots the co-workers believed
to have been complicit in the affair.
Usually a number of people are involved in keeping the
secret of the work affair or infidelity at work. It is clearly down to each individual — company policy
means as little as a marriage contract when it comes to illicit
work affairs.
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